What we should stop this year (it's not too late)
At the beginning of the year, we often make a lot of resolutions. And we also know that many of them don't work: we simply don't stick to them.
There are two main reasons why many resolutions cannot be kept:
- For the resolutions to be successful, we have to work on our beliefs, i.e. our identity. Otherwise we would have already implemented the resolutions in the past. However, working on our beliefs is hard and almost always requires support.
- We want to implement resolutions on top of everything else. This rarely works well because we overload ourselves.
I won't go into the first point in depth here. But I would like to give you a few ideas on point 2. Because instead of always loading up on new things, we also need to let things go and stop. It's like the cellar, the cupboard or the garage: if we only ever put new things in there, the space will eventually be exhausted. So the question is: what do we throw away? With this in mind, I recommend putting some things in our lives to the test and stopping them:.
Stop No. 1: Mediocrity
What often stands in our way to more fulfillment and success is the acceptance of mediocrity in life. (I wrote a whole book about this: "Corporate fitness: out of mediocrity!", published by SpringerGabler).
Ask yourself: Do you ensure an outstanding mindset, outstanding clarity, top implementation? Do you surround yourself mostly with outstanding people and read groundbreaking books? Do you create excellence in everything important that you do? Are you far above average in productivity? And so on.
It is important to banish mediocrity from life as far as possible. This then creates space for truly great things.
Stop no. 2: Negative inputs
It's a classic, and yet: how much time could we spend elsewhere if we banished all negative input from our lives that we don't do anything with? This includes news media, a lot of things on social media, but also other people, negative conversations, statements and discussions in meetings and so on.
More important than saving time, by the way, is reducing the negative influence of our subconscious. It's like bad food: the effect comes as soon as we take in the negative.
Stop no. 3: Excuses
I sometimes imagine a world in which no one blames other people, circumstances, events or anything else, but takes full responsibility. That probably remains a dream. But you can start with yourself and no longer allow any excuses or blame. You can train yourself to do this - and this will keep you in the driver's seat instead of transferring responsibility to someone or something else.
Conclusion:
With these three anti resolutions you will certainly fare better than with even more normal resolutions. Feel free to pass the suggestion on to those around you. Then we can all benefit from it.
Author:
Volkmar Völzke is a success maximizer. Book author. Consultant. Coach. Speaker. www.volkmarvoelzke.ch
